Woman Struggles with Boyfriend’s Past Love
A woman opened up about her struggles in her one-year relationship, revealing that her boyfriend’s past love is causing her self-doubt and emotional stress.
At the start of their relationship, he seemed distant and unsure. She even tried to break up with him a few times but things took a turn the night before Valentine’s Day when he wasn’t excited about making plans.
That’s when she finally ended things and discovered the reason behind his behaviour.
Her boyfriend, now 30, had his heart broken at 21 by his first love, she was his first kiss, first partner, and the woman he thought he would be with forever.
But after he told her he loved her, things fell apart, she left him and since then, he blamed himself for the breakup.
The woman, now back in the relationship, feels uneasy about how deeply the past still affects him.
After looking up the ex on Facebook, she discovered that the woman was beautiful, successful and smart.
Seeing her photos made her feel like she could never measure up even though her boyfriend is more committed, she can’t shake the feeling that she’s not enough.
She’s considering breaking up but fears she’ll regret it.
Dr. Schwartz, a clinical psychologist, responded to her situation as he pointed out that obsessing over the ex’s photos online is only causing her unnecessary pain.
He also questioned why both she and her boyfriend are still so caught up in a failed relationship from the past.
Dr. Schwartz advised her to trust her instincts. If her boyfriend is still emotionally distant after a year, it might be time to move on.
However, he also suggested therapy to help her understand herself better and figure out what she truly wants in a relationship.
He ended with an interesting thought, could it be that both of them are afraid of commitment and using the past as a way to avoid a real connection?
