Why Do Good Women Struggle in Love?

My friend Louisa is one of the best people I know, caring, selfless and always there for the people she loves.

But when it comes to relationships, things never seem to go well for her, the reasons men have left her? If I start listing them, you might just cry.

I sometimes joke that maybe there’s a spirit chasing her love life but jokes aside, it hurts to see her give so much and still end up heartbroken.

Too Good for Men?

There was Jude and his reason for leaving was,  “You’re too good for me.” Sounds like something from a movie, right? That guy was cheating, Louisa caught him three times but stayed, thinking love could fix it then one day, he left on his own honestly, I was relieved.

Then came Eric, the one she truly gave her all to. If Louisa had free time, it belonged to Eric, I would call, and she wouldn’t pick up.

She stopped cooking at home because she was always cooking for him, they lasted two years until one day, Eric told her, “I’m going through something, and I need to be alone.” Louisa was ready to wait, but he said no.

A few months later, he got married to a woman who wasn’t even as beautiful as Louisa.

Then there was James, this one pursued her for five whole months, he did everything to win her heart but the moment she gave in he ghosted her with no reason, no explanation, he just vanished. This one broke her ehhh.

The Fart That Ended It All

Then Eben came along and Louisa believed he was different but three months later, it’ was over.

Ask me why, Go on, ask.

They were being intimate and she got a little loud, he told her to keep quiet, but she couldn’t so he clamped her mouth, in that moment, she farted. It was sudden, spontaneous as she couldn’t help it.

Eben stopped immediately, got dressed and never looked at her the same way again. Now, he says it’s not about the fart or the noise, but “something else” he won’t explain.

Louisa won’t let go as she keeps going back, and he keeps pushing her away, she’s was no longer herself, she overworks, sleeps little, always breaking down and I don’t know how to help her.

Why Do Good Women Struggle in Love?

Louisa loves deeply but is that the problem? I don’t think so or maybe she gives too much, too soon, just maybe she’s choosing men who don’t value what she offers or maybe some men just don’t know how to handle a good woman.

One thing is clear, love shouldn’t drain you, it shouldn’t make you lose yourself, If you have to keep proving your worth, you’re in the wrong place.

So, to anyone reading this, if you love like Louisa, don’t change who you are rather choose to be better cause love should make you feel safe, not exhausting.