Why Are Good People Choosing to Be Single
Love is supposed to be beautiful, but many good people are choosing to walk away from relationships altogether.
The dating scene has changed, leaving many heartbroken and disillusioned instead of finding deep connections, people now face situationships, infidelity and emotional unavailability.
For people who believe in true love, commitment, and family, the constant disappointment has led them to make a tough choice, to remain single rather than settle for less.
The Story of A Man Who Believed in Love
A 34-year-old Lagos-based software engineer, once believed in love. He grew up watching his parents share a bond filled with respect and care, he had always dreamed of having something similar.
When he met Cynthia, he thought he had found the woman he would spend forever with. She was kind, intelligent, and had dreams of building a life with him.
As time passed, he started noticing changes, she became distant, constantly on her phone and uninterested in deep conversations.
One day, while out with friends, he overheard someone mention her name in connection to another man.
His heart raced as he checked her social media and saw subtle hints posts about keeping options open and living in the moment. When he confronted her, she admitted she wasn’t ready for commitment and just wanted to enjoy the moment.
He was devastated. He had given his all, only to realize he was just another option.
The Changing Face of Dating in Nigeria
This story is not unique, across Nigeria, many men and women who genuinely want love find themselves in similar situations. The dating culture has evolved, making it difficult for good people to connect deeply.
With the rise of casual relationships, many people now prefer no strings attached relationships over commitment. They want fun without responsibility.
The social Media has presented many with endless options on Instagram, TikTok, dating apps, people are constantly exposed to new potential partners, making it harder to focus on one person.
After multiple heartbreaks, some people no longer believe in love. They see relationships as temporary, expecting betrayal at any moment.
In this part of the world, love is often tied to financial stability. Many relationships are built on what one partner can provide rather than emotional connection.
Why Good People Choose to Stay Single
After repeated heartbreaks, people like him realize that love is no longer what it used to be. So instead of investing time and emotions into uncertain relationships, they choose to focus on themselves.
- They prefer peace over drama.
- They are tired of being taken for granted.
- They refuse to settle for less than they deserve.
I’d rather build a life I love alone than force myself into a relationship where I am just an option.
Being single is no longer seen as loneliness. Many good people are embracing independence, building successful careers, traveling, and enjoying life on their own terms. If love comes, it’s a bonus, not a necessity.
Love should be about trust, growth, and genuine connection. But nowadays, many good people find themselves repeatedly disappointed. Instead of forcing relationships, they are choosing themselves, their peace, and their happiness.
And maybe, just maybe, that’s the best love story of all.